What is LOVE and what does it really mean?

I LOVE your shirt, I LOVE that song, I LOVE your hair, OMG I LOVE this! We have become so used to literally throwing the word LOVE around that it has become a trend.

Do we really understand what it means to LOVE someone or something?  Can you even LOVE a thing? Or is LOVE a very specific, divine emotion from GOD, only to be understood and practiced in our relationship with Him (our creator) and with each other?

This past year I have only begun to crack the surface on what it means to LOVE.  If you spoke to me in February of last year you would have heard me throwing the word LOVE around, in every conversation.  I instantly “fell in love” with my hubby,  he is my soulmate and I am “in love”, Oh I “love” him so much!  Well,  I have realized that my emotions and desire to be around him, get to know him, laugh with him, be with him every minute of every day and spend the rest of my life with him was so strong that I joined the trend and instantly called it “LOVE”.   What I was feeling was just the first stage of LIKE……ALOT! I have realized that LOVE, the way GOD intended, is a process and is NOT to be taken lightly!

What made me realize that I had no idea what LOVE was?  Well, I am going to tell you …Marriage Counseling!

I must admit that I did not expect our pre-marital counseling to slap me in the face!  I quickly realized that I had no idea what LOVE was or meant and THAT brutal reality actually scared me!  I realized, more than ever, that I was capable at any moment of hurting, offending and destroying my relationship with GOD, my husband, family, friends and anyone I came in contact with.   I knew that I needed to start studying and getting a grip on what it means to LOVE, the way God intends.

As I began to ask God for a divine revelation on LOVE I was reminded of Mark 12:30-31   “Love the Lord God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.  The second is this: ‘love your neighbor as yourself.’  There is no commandment greater than these.”  

THERE IS NO COMMANDMENT GREATER THAN THESE?  OK, this commandment is obviously extremely important, I thought to myself.   As I began to ponder on this popular scripture the Holy Spirit began to do a work in me, that I had never felt before and I just started to cry.  I have always loved God (so I thought), but I quickly realized that my thoughts and actions definitely were NOT showing Him or anyone that I loved God.  It was at THAT MOMENT when my heart fell into true repentance and I rededicated my life to Jesus, My Savior .  I desired, wanted and needed LOVE in my life, more than I have ever wanted it before!

How can I LOVE myself or anyone until I learn what it truly means to LOVE God?  How can I be a good wife, mother and friend until I learn to LOVE God with all my heart and with all my soul and with all my mind and with all my strength?

This was my first revelation on LOVE, It’s not about ME!   It’s about loving God, loving others and LOVE is an act of service.   I know this sounds basic and simple but it is HARD!  As I study more of Gods word  and draw closer to Him,  He is revealing things in my life that I must remove, in order to LOVE and please Him.  It is a daily struggle with my flesh because I am selfish! But through God’s example of His perfect LOVE for me,  I am understanding what it all means!

I am excited to share my journey, as I study and make the conscience effort to apply in my life the greatest commandment of all………LOVE-as God Intends.


9 thoughts on “What is LOVE and what does it really mean?

  1. Paula Bishop says:

    You knocked it out of the park! My heart is so touched. Thanks for sharing your heart so transparently.

    This message could change the world if we could just grasp it! But you are right….it’s hard!

    So proud of you. Love you sweetie.


    • Paula,
      Thank you so much. This message is changing my life, daily! I look forward to sharing my experiences, thoughts, failures and new revelations as I continue my journey towards TRUE love-as God intends.

  2. John Flannigan says:

    Hi Jennifer,
    Love your blog !

    You will love the book:

    “Keep your Love On”
    by Danny Silk

    Check it out and let me know what you think.

  3. Shelley Stone says:

    I LOVE the subject of your blog! I’d like to address the phrase ‘is love just a very specific divine emotion?’ I think we all think that at times. We love feeling good feelings. What I’ve learned on my journey since becoming a believer is that emotions are responders to our thoughts. And I had a lot of negative thoughts and had to begin the hard road to learn to think love thoughts. Not always so easy. This is what I practiced to get a good God-intended result…and it is an ongoing process… Well, I figured, if God is love, and the Bible, the Word of God, is the Mind of Christ, we must learn to think His thoughts…exchanging our human viewpoint for His divine viewpoint,, as my pastor taught. The ‘taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ.’ I began to see that struggling with our flesh is part of the race we run. At the moment I’m enjoying the grace He’s giving me to see ‘struggles’ as a piece of exercise equipment, strengthening my faith for the race. ‘ Let us lay aside every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us and let us run with perserverence, the race that is set before us, FIXING OUR EYES ON JESUS, ..’ Hebrews 12:1-2. I have found this gives me great joy even amidst suffering. To remember that planting His words, and watering them, gives Him the chance to do the growing. And when they grow, His words inside us, our emotions cannot help but rejoice. ‘Being joyful about the Lord is my Strength’. So in this way, love is a divine emotion when we begin to FEEL the love for our God, based on His love that He showed towards us. And as you say, it is action based, for God so loved us that HE GAVE His only begotten Son…..Giving is a definate action. So i have found it is work, yes, but our faithful God who grows everything that grows, brings the peaceable fruit of righteousness. When we love God through our actions, He is a faithful rewarder of them that seek Him, right? And He rewards us with joy unspeakable of love emotions towards Him, which encourages more right actions from us, and love towards ourselves and everyone else around us. So be encouraged! You are on the path walking with God. ‘For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus (Philippians 1:6).’
    “Let THIS mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus.’ (Phil. 2:5)
    We have the mind of Christ!!!

  4. ELIUD ARIGI says:

    It was a great article and I am deeply humbled.Keep seeking first God’s kingdom and all these things shall be added unto you.God bless you and your better half.

  5. Steven Paul, a Christ follower... says:

    God’s love…(agape love)…is quite perfect and unconditional. He’ll take us anywhere we accept Him, and the more we allow Him to, the Lord will build us up in love.

    This is unlike human love, and especially spousal love! Sadly, I lost the love of two children over the failings of human love. I had my fault in this, but in recent years have found no forgiveness in the hearts of my two children…professed Christians!

    It’s not entirely their fault. Their mother, also a “Christian” woman, has been at the root of their attitudes, I am sure…

    Anyway, good post, Jennifer!

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