Love is Patient. Patience is Surrender.

As  I continue my journey and daily pursuit towards understanding LOVE- as God intends, I am blown away with what God is revealing to me.   My first blog, “What is LOVE and What does it mean?,  is about my revelation on the greatest commandment to us as Christians and followers of Jesus.

(Mark 12:30-31) 3And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength. 31 The second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.”

If I am pursuing the first commandment to LOVE God with all my heart, mind and strength, then LOVING my neighbor as myself should be easy!  So, why does it seem so hard?  I have always known 1 Corinthians 13  to be the LOVE chapter,  but  I had to ask myself:  Do I understand everything there is to know about each characteristic of LOVE- as God intends?  Am I showing God that I love Him based on what He says the characteristics of Love are?   The answer is NO,  which began this weeks study on Patience!

#1 LOVE is Patient.  I have heard “Love is patient” said so many times but I must be honest,  I  have never studied what being patient really means.  I don’t know how to obtain patience or instill  the practice of patience in my life.   Nor, have I ever fully grasped God’s patience for me as His child!   When I thought of being patient it always seemed to just focus on the negative going on in my life or in someone else’s life, that I knew.  When someone makes you mad “be patient”, when your marriage is failing “be patient”, when you are sick and dying “be patient”, when you loose your job “be patient”, when your life SUCKS…well …just “be patient”.  Being patient to me meant weakness, standing down,  lower  my head, while tapping my  toe, as I resentfully tell God that I am being “patient”,  at the same time asking Him to hurry up,  answer my prayer and “fix my life!”

Well…What if patience, (which is LOVE),  only comes by fully surrendering our lives to God?  God began to reveal to me that patience, (which is LOVE), will only come when my mind, will and emotions belong to Him, NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS TO ME! Patience works hand in hand with peace.

As I look back on the past 10 years it is very obvious that I was in control of MY life.  Every decision I made was impulsive, selfish, emotional, based on fear, doubt, worry, un-forgiveness and resentment.  I was steering the wheel of MY life  and God was just supposed to be in the car somewhere and join me for the ride!   You know what God says about someone like that?  They are foolish!  Yes,  I admit I was and had been acting like a FOOL!  It makes sense to me why I never could find peace and why my life stayed in chaos.

The moment I chose to surrender my life COMPLETELY to God suddenly all the negative feelings, thoughts and emotions that tormented my mind and caused a life full of stress started to disappear!  I began to express patience, (which is LOVE) , not only to God but to everyone around me and through the circumstances of life that came my way!  I felt strong, confident, capable, wise, without worry and without fear.  It’s amazing how GOOD  you feel when you surrender to GOD!  Through my surrender I had all the patience I needed.  When I  allowed God to be in control of my life I began to stand firm on His promises to me!  I started focusing not on the labels and opinions of what man said about me, or my circumstances but on what HE says about me, who I am in Him and His promises.  Which is the ONLY TRUTH, anyway!

I know that it doesn’t matter what I face or encounter because if God is for me, then who can be against me? (Romans 8:31).  No weapon formed against me shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17).  I am the head and not the tail and I am above and not beneath (Deuteronomy 28:13).  I can do ALL things through Christ, who strengthens me (Phillipians 4:19).  For God knows the plans that He has for me, they are plans for good and not for evil, to give me a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11).

So, as I stated in the beginning,  if we FULLY surrender our lives to God then expressing patience to everyone around us, regardless of their actions and in all circumstances should  come easy!  He He…… Well,  it’s NOT easy and is a daily surrendering of our mind, our will and our emotions to God and His will!   Jesus is a perfect example of this kind of patience, as He went to the cross. (Hebrews 12:2).   As we carry our cross and surrender our lives to Him daily,  then we can allow the LOVE of God, (which is patient), to flow freely through us, in a way that is only possible through the Holy Spirit!  As we surrender everything to God then we can begin expressing, in all areas of our lives,  LOVE-  as God intends.

“Patience is surrender.  What are you surrendering to, the opinions of man and the issues of life, or God?”  When you surrender to God you will not only receive patience, (which is love), but you will rest in peace.”


7 thoughts on “Love is Patient. Patience is Surrender.

  1. Shelley Stone says:

    ok, its the next day now and Jennifer and I have shared on fb some silly little ways we show patience to our husbands. Nothing super spiritual, just everyday practical things. Putting what we’ve learned into practice. We used the sentence ‘ I show my husband love thru my being patient when…._____”. Fill in your own blank. My specific one was ‘I show my husband love by being patient not to talk while he is watching Christ Matthews on CNN, even though he can pause or rewind Chris Matthews and listen to me, his wife..’ Kind of funny actually. But I’m enjoying having the opportunity to fellowship with a special lady via the internet, one who has a heart for God. A sort of answer to prayer for me.
    So today, as I’m doing my morning wake up ritual, drinking coffee, having my quiet time with God, listening to music …..I’m listening to some music on youtube via the IPad, while taping Joyce Meyer on the DVR, planning to watch it after I’m done….I begin to feel the familiar tug of war inside me…something tellng me to shut the music off and turn on the TV and watch Joyce Meyer….I ignore it, push it away, rationalize and say oh I’ll watch it when its over, but the ‘something’ was so pressing, I began to get curious…..and the music on the IPad stops. ‘Error…try tapping’ or whatever that little sign is that appears on the screen when you lose reception. This occured maybe 4 or 5 times before I finally got the hint, shut it down, and turned on the TV.
    The very minute I turned on the TV, (the Joyce show was still taping), there’s Joyce and out of her mouth, I swear, no joke, she says the words, “EVERY TIME YOU’RE PATIENT, SOMEONE IS SEEING LOVE.”
    Wow! Is God in control or what? I was so bowled over by omniscience, His all knowingness, and the perfect timing of it all, i just felt His LOVE and His Presence so present… was like a confirmation, a little kiss on the forehead, blessing the fellowship and confirming the words that had gone on between Jennifer and I and this whole blog. And the community of believers who have shared, and will share in the future on it.
    As I watched the whole teaching session from beginning to end, it was all about Love, walking in love, and she used the chapter from 1 Corinthians. I’m still so blown away by just this little small act of lovingkindness that He showed me, He knew how much I needed that, and I just had to share it here with y’all, and I’ll write more later! Blessed be our King! Thank you God! Thank you for loving us and teaching us how to love others!

  2. Shelley Stone says:

    hello….its me again. LOL! I LOVE that you brought to light the aspect of surrender to illuminate the virtue of patience. I think its a might awesome thing you discovered. I’d never heard it put that way before, and I believe it adds a missing piece to what we are ususally taught about patience. Surrender is such a vital part of our relationship and walk with God, and hearing you speak about it is encouraging me to remember the concept throughout the day. Thank you! Blog on!

    • I am so happy to hear that! He is teaching me so much and I am SO GLAD that He is using me to inspire others. Thank you for you comment, it is SO encouraging for me to read how GOD’S message of True LOVE- as He intends is impacting others, just as much as He is impacting my heart.

  3. I agree with you, Jennifer. So many of the things we struggle with fall away when we start to practice the daily habit of surrender. This is what following Christ is all about. I do what He wants whether I want to or not. This is what Jesus asks when He tells us take up our cross. It is easy to follow God when there is no real cost to us. It’s easy to accept the “free gift” of Jesus Christ, but the Christian life is not so easy when following him requires us to sacrifice the things we want most in this life.

    I confess the struggle has not gone away for me and probably never will, but I have experienced what it is to agonize over something, finally surrender it to God, and then have Him return it in a way that is far better than it ever was when I held it tight to myself. That experience was a lesson in patience and a lesson in the grace and love of God. And I have found when we start on this road of surrender, even if it is with only a small step, we see that God really is a good God who won’t leave us with nothing, and it becomes easier to surrender the next part of our life, and the next, and the next. Blessings as you continue on your journey!

    • I can completely relate to you! Due to my own choices and decisions, in my personal life, what I “thought” was the BEST part of my life was taken away…but REPLACED with BETTER, from GOD! He truly knows what is BEST for us. It has been a year of complete surrender and everyday just CHOOSING to trust Him and His will for me.

      God is so good and I am touched by your comment. Blessings to you and may God keep you, watch over you and protect you.


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